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The Entitlement Game Entitlement limits our potential
Have you ever had feelings of entitlement? While entitlement is another way of stating ‘the world owes me’, the other end of the spectrum points to a core belief of limitations…
Even though I deserve the best, I act on getting the worst. The polar opposites dance in the entitlement game.
I can declare my entitlement demanding respect from others and at the same time create lack of respect through self-sabotaging behaviors. The feelings of entitlement have an undertone of a crippling effect. Either way entitlement limits our potential.
On our way to the movies we made a stop at the bank and since the parking lot was empty, I parked the car close to the ATM and waited in the car for my husband to complete his transactions.
While waiting, I noticed a car circling around our car. I was not too sure why the lady was looking right at me.
She pulled out her handicap sticker and began to wave it at me, with a sense of entitlement.
There was parking behind me, in front of me, besides me and as far as I could see all around me.
I respected her decision to park in the space where I was parked and I drove to a different spot. Furthermore, the interesting thing was that where I was parked, there was no handicap sign…
I sat there thinking of what just transpired and then I let it go as we drove to our destination. The event was still percolating in the back of my mind.
As the next two days unfolded, I realized that similar to the lady in the parking lot, I wave my handicap sticker with a sense of entitlement.
One of my entitlements is of the grandiose vision ‘don’t you know who I am?’ In the quest to prove who I am, my core fear takes me to a place of ‘I am not enough’.
I use my handicap, "I am not enough" to remain average while my grandiose vision demands the attention.
When the feelings of entitlement take over, we reduce ourselves to our limited beliefs and become handicapped in that moment.
When we are comfortable with who we are, the entitlement vanishes because at that depth of our being there is nothing to prove.
When the entitlement vanishes, I become an integral part of the whole.
How many times do we let entitlement handicap us? How does the entitlement limit us from exploring possibilities? What are some of your entitlement beliefs? How might that handicap you? How does this belief play out in your life?
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